Depression, Help, hope, Love, mental health, Strength, Suicide, suicide prevention

VETTING LOVE

How many losses have you suffered over your lifetime? A handful, more? What if you endured numerous losses in a single week? 

Losing a loved one is hard. Strike that, it’s suffocating. It’s devastating. It’s traumatizing. It’s confusing. It’s unfair. It’s beyond the capacity of being defined by so simple a word as hard. Losing a loved one is losing a piece of your journey, your memories, your laughter, and your love to an intangible enemy. 

We can all agree, losing a loved one is painful in ways words can’t often express adequately. 

But what constitutes a loved one? 

Any person we have loved throughout our life? 

Is love an emotion that can only be shared between people? 

Any person who has ever shared space with a pet wouldn’t hesitate to express the enormity of their love and how valid a feeling it is for both them and their companion. This love, this shared expression of life is as meaningful as any other. 

Love has been categorized as being unconditional, affectionate, familiar, enduring, and playful. It is a connection shared beyond words. A bond made in quiet moments. A joy created when two souls play and dance together in happiness. Agape, Philia, Storge, Pragma, Ludus, LOVE a word so strong the Greeks bestowed it with 8 categories to try and contain its exponential meanings. The love of a pet could fall under many or even all of these categories. 

But where does the love of another’s pet fall? 

The love that is built when we first held you in our arms as a puppy. When we comforted the scared and confused kitten after their life-saving procedure. When we shared giddy moments as you danced about our space hoping for a treat. Softer hearts don’t often fare well against those literal puppy dog eyes and you definitely have the cutest. We are here because of our immense love of animals. We are here to serve you in your big times and small. We are here, loving your animals as though they were our own. After all they’ve been ours in immeasurable ways across countless dog or cat years. 

Life and love are larger and more evasive than we can imagine. In a single day, we can see both halt over and over and over. In a single day, we can come face to face with death until our hearts can’t bear anymore. In a single day we can experience some of the lowest lows known by man’s best friend. Yours, and our best friends. We’ve formed memories, moments, and meaning that can only ever be revisited. We grieve for you, in our way. We also grieve for them, for those souls who never spoke anything but the language of love. The hardest part is our love and our roles don’t end when their lives do, not for them and not for you. 

We push forward with hope. We cling to joy. And we pray you never forget how grateful we are to you for entrusting your precious lives and loves in our humbled hands. 


If you haven’t recently, thank your vet, your techs, and your clinic staff. It means more to them than you may realize. 

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World Suicide Prevention Day

Tomorrow is September 11th. On September 11th 2,996 people lost their lives in an attack the people of the United States vowed to never forget. Nearly 3,000 people woke up one morning to never see their loved ones again. It shook our country. Innocent lives were taken tragically before their time. They were stolen from us and we vowed to never let that happen again. We came together, we stood up, we worked as one to fight for a better future for everyone. 

‪Today is September 10th. Today is World Suicide Prevention Day. 

Globally, about 1 million people per year die by suicide. That’s a death every 40 seconds. 

In 2017, in the United States, almost 3,931 people died every month by suicide. Their loved ones woke up one morning to find out that they, too, were stolen from them. Their lives cut short. Some of these people were fathers, some were friends, some were veterinarians, some children, some police officers, and so many more. Why don’t we speak about this more? Why don’t we vow to act and make a change? Far too many are suffering in silence. There are no flags to honor these loved ones. There are no memorials for those we miss dearly. 

Life is precious. There is no comparing life and loss. Pain is pain. Your pain is not stronger or lesser than another, it simply is pain. 

In suicide, there are far too many misconceptions and simplistic “explanations” painted over complex and truly human issues because too often, we cannot handle not having a reasonable answer. 

The harsh truth is, oftentimes in suicide, there is no answer, only more questions.

Why, is the first question a suicide loss survivor asks. Sadly, why cannot be answered 99% of the time. 

Those who die by suicide are not weak, selfish, or cowardly. They often feel as though they are a burden, as though they are making things better by not being alive. Suicide is not a rational choice when looking at the mental health state of a person struggling with illness. 

Suicide is not a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Some people suffer agonizing pain every day, from the moment they wake up to the moment they wake up because they can’t even sleep long enough for it to count as sleep. How would you help them? How can we say they only have temporary problems when every moment is pain?

Suicidal people are just looking for “attention”. What trauma did they experience when they were younger that we know nothing about? What deep rooted hurts do they need healed but have no idea they are even there to have a chance to heal them? They need attention, they need the skills to help themselves. They need to be seen and validated. 

There are so many more misconceptions and far too simplistic sayings and so little time to question and attempt to explain them all. Learn, seek knowledge, ask. Don’t limit yourself because something sounds catchy or cute. Spark your passion before something sparks it for you. 

Did you wake up knowing today is world suicide prevention day?

If you did, I’m truly sorry for your loss. If you did, I’m sorry for the pain you may be enduring now. If you did, know you are not alone. We are here beside you, pushing forward for a brighter, happier, future.

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Success

Success is all about perspective.

It is short-lived and ravenous. Its survival depends on the attention span. And let’s face it, the attention span suffers from Alzheimers. Success demands sacrifices. As the offerings become greater, success demands more and more of us. It is fickle. It is moody. Often it is unnoticed when we want it to be seen most. Success doesn’t allow us to see behind the curtain of late nights, early mornings, heartaches, or pain that we bind together in order to feed its appetite. What you see as success, can sometimes be nothing more than chains.

People aren’t always in our corners, even when they say they are. Anyone who has ever put their soul and hearts out there knows how devastating it is when we realize those we think are on our team, aren’t. And we know, don’t we? We see it, even if we don’t say anything in the moment. We can find ourselves proud of how much we have accomplished and look around to see we are the only ones celebrating. We see, but sometimes we are too set on that goal to stop for things that are only trying to pull us down.

The best mindset to have is to live your life for you. Push forward, no matter what, for you. Not for others to be proud, not for others to cheer, not for others to see you as successful, but for you.

I’m really lucky to have had the chance to get to know so many people in my life. Sometimes the least likely relationships grow to be the ones you can’t imagine not having. I cannot tell you all the moments I often revisit that involve so many of you, because I don’t have enough time in this world to try. But many of you do cross my mind more often than you will ever know. Your stories, hearts, pain, aches, they are parts of me now and forever.

So I wanted to say thank you to everyone who has cheered me on, clapped for me, and supported me in any way. I wanted to tell you, you have not gone unnoticed. I wanted to appreciate you for you, for what you mean to me, and for how you have supported me.

I didn’t set out to find myself where I am today, but when your purpose hits you in the face like a brick wall, you are destined to never be blind to it again. Not everyone understands, not everyone cares, not everyone is truly cheering when they say they are and none of that really matters in the end. Because in the end, I won’t be here to see what I leave behind. All I can hope, is that someone out there will remember me fondly. As I will many of you.

We are here for as long as we are allowed to be here. While I am here, I plan on keeping on. I will continue on my path, I have a feeling many of you may have an inkling what that could be. And while I push forward, I hope to continue to know you, to meet more of you, and to help. In whatever small way I am able.

For me, success is doing something greater than myself so the world can seem less lonely and cold because I was once scared of how small I felt.

To those who have bought a book today, I thank you for supporting my work. To those who bought one yesterday, I thank you for allowing me the chance to live my life and help others. To those who will buy one tomorrow, I will continue to thank you for all the hopes you are telling me I can continue to hold tight.

You are allowing me to share pieces of my soul. You are granting me the ability to take better care of my universe in more ways than I can express on this platform. And you are giving me the strength to continue on an all too often exhausting journey. So, truly, I thank you all from the whole of my heart for supporting this human and the humans who belong to me.

Keep your eyes open for several more books coming soon. If you don’t want to keep your eyes open, I hope your dreams never fail to outshine your reality.

The Art of Safe Storytelling

I developed this training and guidebook to help those who asked me for guidance on how to share their own stories. I wanted to share the hard lessons I learned when I stumbled through the frightening world of standing absolutely vulnerably in front of strangers and hoped I wasn’t damaging any of us. I created this book because I realized how important it was for me to take care of my wellbeing while I was trying to prevent suicides and I wanted to encourage others to do the same. I wrote this book because I never felt like a few minutes after a presentation was enough time to share all the important things I have learned in storytelling through my years. I wanted to help others develop their story, care for themselves, and share experiences that just might bring us all closer together.

This self-paced easy to follow guidebook walks any person hoping to share their lived experience through tips on caring for themselves, developing their story, and keeping their audience at the forefront of their work.

It’s perfect for any speaker, new or seasoned!

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Message me today for your copy, or to ask about wholesale opportunities.

Or you can purchase your book online here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1078164215/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_he6jDbBH2KRH3

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